BDSM, Consent, and Safety: The Original Sources
by Justin

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Know your tools and play safe!


Consent and safety are two of the most critical benchmarks of BDSM play and, by extension, spanking play.  There are multiple ideas about how to best ensure consent and safety and how to understand what each truly means.  
slave david stein,
1948-2017

Here, we offer links to the original source documents for three of the frequently referenced frameworks for consent and safety.  Each is worth a read as we consider how to best approach these important concepts.  And, each offers its own nuances that can provoke conversation and reflection.
  • “Safe/Sane/Consensual” is arguably the most well known framework, which was promoted by slave david stein (this was the name by which he was known in the community) and discussed in his 2002 essay, “Safe Sane Consensual: The Making of a Shibboleth.”
We also dedicate a chapter to safety frameworks in our book, Bad Lads, Strict Sirs, and the World of Adult Male Discipline (pp. 60-65).

We hope that these perspectives offer useful material for insights on consent and safety!


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